Does eHarmony Work?

Published on September 5, 2010

Does eHarmony work? Do people really have success using it? The simple answer is this: yes, it does work and many people have great success, including marriage, using it. While that is the short answer, I think many people are more interested in this question:
Will eHarmony work for me?

That question is harder to answer but I’ll explain my thoughts with the hope that it will assist my readers when choosing whether or not to try eHarmony. If you’re not familiar with this service, you’ll want to start by reading my eHarmony Review to better understand my discussion here.

So…Will eHarmony Work for Me?

Now obviously I can’t promise you that eHarmony will work for you specifically. What I can do is explain what to expect when trying eHarmony and why it has worked for so many people.

• First, eHarmony has had the majority of its success, in my opinion, because it removes much of the guess work out of online dating. With other online dating services bad dates are more common as is meeting people that you don’t get along well with. While people do have complaints about eHarmony, generally speaking the people I talk with agree that the matching system works very well.
  

• Due to the above point, eHarmony limits the members you can communicate with. Sometimes you’ll have no one new to communicate with for days at a time. This can particularly be a problem if you live in a low populated area. This issue is perhaps the biggest complaint of eHarmony but this is the cost to be paid for a service that matches you as well as eHarmony does.
  

• eHarmony has a guided communication process which is part of the benefit of the service but can also create a situation where the communication process (and the process of getting to the first dates) can take a little longer.
  

• As I’ll discuss a little later, eHarmony has millions of members and the last I heard it was still the largest online dating service (when measured by daily visits). This fact does help off-set the issues discussed above.

With those points about eHarmony explained, I believe that someone with the following qualities is most likely to find success using eHarmony:

• They live in an area with a good sized populate or they are willing to travel to meet other singles
  

• They can appreciate (or at least accept) the benefits of the guided communication process, even though this may cause the overall process of meeting to take some additional time.
  

• They can accept that at times they may not have new matches to communicate with. Many people never experience this issue but be aware it is a risk.

If you feel that you meet all of the qualities I describe above, then I do believe eHarmony can work for you (although I would encourage you to continue reading because the success many singles find is not limited to the service they are using).

No Dating Service is Perfect

If you are a single person who is considering trying online dating, let me give you a warning: no online dating service has a perfect record. Many people have found success and even marriage with eHarmony while others have not. The same can be said for every online dating service.

In my opinion, much of the success you may or may not have will come down to how you approach online dating and how committed you are to your dating life. The people I talk to who are committed to dating online, even when it gets frustrating, have much more success than anyone else, regardless of service. Keep this in mind regardless of what service you eventually decide to try.

The Success of eHarmony

If you are hesitating to try eHarmony because you suspect it might be a scam or not really work, that is not the case. This can be seen without even trying the service just in the amount of success it has had. As eHarmony points out on their web site, they’ve had over 20 million subscribers since the service was created. A service that flat-out fails its customers would never have this type success.

Learning More About eHarmony
In another article, I discuss in much more detail how eHarmony works. Also, I have written a free online dating guide that discusses many different aspects of online dating that go well beyond what service you decide to use.

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