Is It Normal to Try Online Dating Several Times?
Published on March 17, 2010
Online dating most often requires a great deal of patience. My wife met me on her first date using Match.com but she is absolutely the exception, not the rule. That normally doesn’t happen. What normally happens is we sign up for online dating and assume that because we are surrounded by singles that meeting someone will only take a day or two.
Unfortunately, that’s normally just not the case. Sometimes finding a date at all is frustrating and other times finding dating isn’t the problem but the people we are meeting are. Understandably, many people give up on online dating as “just not for them”.
Here’s the biggest problem with that decision: online dating was the only source of their dates. After a month of no success, they give up on online dating altogether but then find themselves with no dates at all. After a time, they come to realize this and they sign back up. So, yes, in my experience talking with singles dating online it is very (very) common to try online dating several times.
As I discuss in my online dating guide, persistence is one of the most important pieces to success with online dating. While many people do find themselves trying online dating multiple times I believe they would find more success by sticking with it. Yes, even when it isn’t as fun and exciting as the day you signed up.
If you are someone who is considering giving up on online dating, I’d ask you to take all of this into account. If you can’t be convinced to stick with your current dating service I would recommend using a free service like OKCupid. Even if you feel like it won’t lead anywhere at least it is free and you never know what might happen! If you can’t be convinced to stick with it, at least be sure you a way to meet other singles offline
Author: Brad
Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating. You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here.
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