Online Dating Success Story: Post-Wedding Thoughts

Published on January 6, 2010

Some years ago a friend of mine had been discussing the idea of loneliness with me and while she didn’t come out and say she was looking to date, I felt the signs were there. I mentioned this blog and then discussed some ideas on why I think she might want to try it.

She did try it and for a time, things didn’t go very well. She met quite a few jerks and sometimes it seemed to me she was only dealing with men who knew how to treat her poorly. At this point, part of me felt horrible. I had felt like I had put her in a situation where she was hurt and lonely instead of just lonely. She persisted, moving from a main stream dating site to one of the niche dating sites (something like ChristianCafe although I honestly don’t know which service it was). Here, she had success.

A few weeks ago, I was able to attend her wedding to a great guy she met thanks to the niche online dating site. I really don’t think she could have hoped to find someone who would care for her more and the wedding was beautiful (even though we were stuck in a semi-blizzard).

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I remember not too long ago reading an article where the author proclaimed that she didn’t believe there were any real online dating success stories out there. According to her, it was always a friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend who had success…that online dating success was nothing more than rumors in the wind. Well, as my own marriage can attest and as a brand new one can also confirm, this is not the case.

I think sometimes people think because online dating isn’t easy, that it’s impossible. Nothing could be further from the truth. Online dating does take commitment. Just because you’re staring at pages and pages of single people doesn’t mean you’re going to be in a strong, successful relationship in a month’s time. If you approach online dating with this expectation, then yeah, I can see why you might think no one would ever have success with online dating. If everyone approached online dating like this, the only people who would have success would be the very lucky.

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